Flexible Maternity Leave – Is it Really a Step in the Right Direction?

I need to start this post by apologising to fathers and all those who campaign for their rights, because I know this blog is going to really rile them. In a way that’s good, because they need to still be riled, they need to not think Nick Clegg’s new flexible maternity leave plans are a sign that a father’s needs are at last being considered and they still need to campaign and fight for their rights. In short Clegg’s new plans are really not the recognition that they seek, at best they are a cursory nod to the fact there is a problem and at worse they are deeply damaging to the mother-infant dyad.

Let’s start with what is really needed. Decent parental leave for both mother and father, a recognition of the emotional and indeed physical (if you include the effects of lack of sleep) turmoil BOTH new parents face after the birth of a baby. This leave should come for BOTH parents, individually, not as a package that can be shared by both parents. I would like to see new fathers receive at least 6 weeks paid paternity leave and the option to take up to a whole year at reduced pay after this. In addition to this they should be able to attend antenatal appointments and classes whilst still in receipt of full pay, as mothers currently do. This leave should be completely independent of anything the mother receives.

What they should NOT have is a share in what was the mother’s maternity leave. This is not really valuing a father, but worse than that it is grossly DE valuing mothers, it takes no account of the breastfeeding relationship or of the mound of scientific research which shows the importance of the mother infant dyad, the most important relationship in the world. I hope my fears do not come true, that of a mother sacrificing precious time with her baby in order for the father to have some. That is not a step in the right direction, no not at all – that in my opinion is a step backward and a big one at that. It is placing pressure on vulnerable new mothers to return to work earlier than they would like so that fathers may spend time with their new baby.

I appreciate too that it gives new parents a choice and for those who really want that choice I concede this may be a good move (though silently I am thinking anything that encourages mothers back to work in the most important period of the infant’s life is a big step backwards for humanity), but I literally recoiled away from my computer screen when I read this in the Guardian article:

“Only mothers will be allowed to take leave in the first two weeks’ leave after birth. But after that parents can divide up the rest of the maternity leave.”

Two weeks?! let me say that again TWO WEEKS?!!!! At two weeks postpartum I was still bleeding heavily, finding it hard to sit down, my breasts were leaking, I was still getting to grips with feeding, my emotions were all over the place and I still looked 6 months pregnant. I can’t imagine handling too my husband’s desire to spend time with the baby and me returning to work (albeit perhaps only temporarily).

So, I may be a lone voice of dissent, but I believe these plans are a step backwards for everybody – oh except for the UK economy that is. Herein lies the problem.


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Sarah Ockwell-Smith, Parenting author and mother to four.
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7 Responses to Flexible Maternity Leave – Is it Really a Step in the Right Direction?

  1. Sarah says:

    HERE HERE!!!!!!!
    We really need to start respecting the time we as women need to rest properly get to know this little being – the government go on about yob culture – has it EVER occured to them these kids get involved with gangs because they have no solid figure
    we have now this detachment from mothers – dads you ARE awesome we really do need you! but 2 weeks?!
    then earlier and earlier nursery places so we can “get back to work”
    earlier school places for the same reason…
    Why isn’t motherhood valued as a time to bond and love a child – we are persuaded by the media that babies cost lots of money and that we need a 2 person income
    it’s just SO sad so so sad.
    We are not rich with money far from it but I will be having a rest and bonding time after this baby is born –

    • The problem is ‘staying at home’ is not good for the economy……and they cannot think long term. Sigh…

      • Sarah says:

        Well , no 😦
        be nice if they really gave some REAL time at least
        10 years ago my eldest was tiny and I was berated weekly to “get back to work”
        it was like a fashion you were weird for wanting to be with them, not a “whole person”
        The pressure was IMMENSE

  2. Jo says:

    Well said! A brave post on a controversial topic. Sharing.

  3. bronwyn says:

    Absobloodylotely! Agreed 1000%. People just don’t f-ing get it sometimes. What is the biological norm? Why are we ignoring what is normal and right in favour of a gesture at political correctness?

  4. Leanne says:

    Couldn’t agree more!
    Just never understood the reason why i had to declare to my employer and/or government my partner’s intentions of taking time off when my child/ren where born and it had to be taken within the within 52 weeks and i HAD to return to work. It has nothing to do with them. Surely, as the parent too, he should have the right the be with his child if he so desires and his rights should be some what equal to that of the mother? Bonding is with both parents and is essential. I had two premmies, i spent the first week in hospital, reacted badly to c section and needed his help to get around and by wheel chair to the nicu’s, then spent the next 6 weeks ferrying back and forth to hospital by taxi until my children came home, which was hard because after a c section you cant drive, but you have to deliver expressed milk to the hospital for your baby somehow! My husband hated the fact he had to go back to work so early.

  5. Seems like a step backwards not forwards.
    2 weeks is far too early to be thinking about going back to work, you need to be bonding and recovering.

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