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What this child *actually* learned is that his mother is a bully. Most likely he learned to bully others from her. . What this DOESN’T teach is: . 1. That he can go to his mother to talk about his problems and ask her for help in dealing with them (ie the problems that caused him to externalise his pain and hurt others). . 2. How to deal with his emotions in a calm and productive way. . 3. How to respect others (because it’s likely he’s never been respected by his own family). . Quite simply hurt people hurt people. . There’s only one way to stop bullying - and it’s not making the kid feel worse 🙁 . . . #gentleparenting #bullying #consciousparenting #mindfulparenting #peacefulparenting #gentlediscipline #mindfuldiscipline #positivediscipline #nonviolentcommunication #parentingteens #parentingtips #sarahockwellsmithGood morning everyone! I haven’t done an intro on here for a little while, so I thought I’d do one with a difference 😉. . So, standard stuff out of the way first; I’m Sarah. I write books about parenting/child psychology (my best known is The Gentle Sleep Book - but I’ve also written about pregnancy, birth, eating, discipline and potty training). I’m 42, live in Essex, England and have 4 kids (3 boys and a girl). I also work with parents 1-2-1 for consults via Skype, email and in person and also via workshops. I’m currently developing my first e-course. . What I’d really love to tell you though is, despite being known as a parenting expert, I’m just like you. ie: human. I mess up, I get things wrong and second guess myself all the time. The problem with being a ‘parenting expert’ is that people seem to think you’re perfect and infallible and it also makes you pretty off-putting and unapproachable IMO. So, what I’d really like to introduce you to is my flaws and failures! . . 1. I am a yeller....and when I yell my best Essex accent comes out 😉. I try *really* hard to not yell, but sometimes I don’t manage it. I also LOVE to swear/curse. . 2. I’m pretty lazy. I’m often asked “wow, 4 kids, 9 books - how do you do it?!”. The real answer is I never iron anything, or make my bed and my house is frequently a tip (my kids think we only tidy when people are coming round - they’re probably right). . . 3. I love my kids with all my heart but sometimes I need to get away from them. Thank goodness for ‘back to school’ is all I can say 😉 . 4. My kids often say “for a parenting expert, you’re not a very good one are you?!”. I have also bribed them on occasion to “act like you’re a perfect kid and I’m a great mum” when they come to work events with me 😉 . 5. Sometimes (often) I wonder why the hell people want to hear what I have to say 🤔 - because I often feel at a loss re. parenting myself. Other parenting experts scare the hell out of me and I have TERRIBLE imposter syndrome! . So, that’s me. Tell me about you? . . . #sarahockwellsmith #parentingexpert #babyexpert #toddlerexpert #childcareexpert #parentingtips #parentingbook #realmum #realmom #realmumlife #tiredmamaWe cannot legally hit another adult, or an animal; but we are allowed to hit children in the name of discipline (yes - it is perfectly legal in England!). Go figure 🤔 . What does hitting teach kids? * to resolve conflicts with violence * to use power to get what you want, and.. * to encourage behaviour based on fear. . What does it NOT teach? * how to behave better * how to control/regulate emotions * respect . . . Yet two thirds of parents still think it’s good to do! . . . #gentleparenting #gentlediscipline #positiveparenting #positivediscipline #gentledisciplinebook #sarahockwellsmith #mindfulparenting #peacefulparenting #consciousparenting #attachmentparenting #disciplineOctober bookings are now open for my Gentle Sleep consults via email. 🌜 If you’d like to work with me 1-2-1 to improve your baby or toddler’s sleep without using traditional sleep training techniques then this is for you! 🌜 Learn more and contact via: 🌜 https://gentlesleeptraining.co.uk/gentle-sleep-training-by-email/ 🌜 . . . #sarahockwellsmith #nightfeed #sleptthroughthenight #gentlesleepbook #gentlesleep #sleeptraining #gentlesleeptraining #bedsharing #cosleeping #breastfeeding #nightweaning #attachmentparenting #gentlemothering #peacefulparenting #mindfulparenting #babycalm #toddlercalm #tiredmom #tiredmumsclub #nightwakes #newborn #babyboy #babygirl #babysleep #toddlersleep #toddlersleephelp #toddlersleepexperts #babysleephelp #babysleeptips #babysleepexpertTop Posts & Pages
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Five Reasons why I Hate Elf on the Shelf
Every few years a new parenting ‘must have’ comes along. These toys, sleep props, books and nursery items quickly develop a cult like following. Parents can quickly get sucked in, often feeling left out, or rather worrying that their children are left out if they don’t jump on the trendy train. The truth is children miss out on nothing without an elf. Christmas is no less magical without them. Continue reading
