Ten Common Baby Parenting Myths You Might Believe (and why you shouldn’t).

There are so many parenting myths in circulation in society. I’m sure you’ve come across many yourself.

Many are obviously myths and therefore easy to ignore. Others however seem far more ingrained and sound far more plausible. The plausibility and popularity of some of the top parenting myths cause a great deal of misunderstanding, and often stress, for vulnerable new parents.

These are my top ten parenting myths:

 

 

1. Your 3 or 4 month old baby is teething 

Drooling – tick, everything in mouth – tick, disrupted sleep – tick, unhappy baby – tick. Must be teething!

Think again. Every single one of these is normal behaviour for 3 and 4 month old babies, teething or no teething.

Almost all babies of this age: 1. drool a lot, 2. put everything in their mouths, 3. wake frequently at night and 4. cry a lot/become a bit of a grouch. For the vast majority, this is due to one thing and one thing only. Normal infant development. See my article about ‘The Four Month Old Babies From Hell‘ for more.

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At around this age babies begin to produce more salivary amylase in preparation for weaning (note, they are not yet ready for solids), hence ‘dribble central’. They also like to put everything into their mouths.

The mouth is a very sensory place and this age is a very sensory one. It doesn’t necessarily indicate pain, even if they chomp away on whatever is put in their mouth (gums are sensory too!). Waking frequently at night is ridiculously normal for a baby this age (I refer you to my linked article above) and a grouchy, whingey demeanour seems to be commonplace too (albeit temporarily thankfully!).

Some Research has shown us that the following are the real symptoms of teething to watch out for:

  • Irritability
  • Fever
  • Diarrhoea
  • Itching
  • Loss of appetite
  • Runny nose
  • Rash
  • Ear rubbing

Other research has shown that many of the symptoms parents attribute to teething actually are not predictive of it.

One of the most concerning issues surrounding the false diagnosis of teething is the overuse of medication by many parents. Aside from the cocktail of chemicals (artificial sweeteners, flavourings and colourings) contained in paediatric pain medications (which incidentally can cause issues with sleep!), research has found that usage of paracetamol in infancy increases the child’s risk of eczema and asthma in later life.

Infant analgesics may be available easily ‘off the shelf’, however they are still pharmaceutical medicines and to that end they carry risks like any other. Infant analgesics should be used with caution, like any other medication, and only when the benefits outweigh the risk. I don’t believe they are  used in this cautious manner by the vast majority of parents of ‘teething’ young babies.

On average teething begins at around six months of age. A small minority of babies will teethe earlier than this however and some are even born with teeth!

 

2. Your 3 or 4 month old baby is ready to wean

baby led weaning, baby weaning readiness, baby weaning mythsPerhaps your baby is small for her age, on a low centile, and you have been advised to add solids to her diet in order to ‘up her weight a bit’. Perhaps your son is big for his age, born over 10lbs, high up on the centiles and you’ve been told that ‘milk alone isn’t enough for him as he’s such a big boy’.

Perhaps you’ve been told that “you need to give her a bit of baby rice to help get her through the night” or perhaps you’ve been told “Your milk isn’t enough for him, he needs more vitamins and calories”.

If your baby is not around 6 months old already then none of these are true.

If your baby puts everything in his or her mouth, watches you eating and wakes regularly at night then he or she is a normal 3 or 4 month old baby, a good few weeks away from weaning readiness.

During their first three or four months of life, a baby’s easy to digest milk diet doesn’t require salivary amylase (the enzyme that enables their body to convert starch to sugar in order to convert food to energy). Babies do not produce any salivary amylase at birth, the production begins and slowly increases over the first six months. A baby’s salivary amylase levels  only reach comparable levels with an adult’s by around five to six months of age. It is only at this point that babies can convert the nutrients found in starchy foods (e.g: rice, grains, fruit and vegetables) into energy. If babies are weaned before this age, their nutrient absorption will be significantly poorer and can lead to digestive disturbances such as diarrhoea, constipation and stomach cramps – all of which interrupt sleep.

There are other physical developments needed for a baby to be ready for solids too, such as the ability to sit upright (supported if necessary), the loss of the tongue thrust reflex and the ability pick up and drop objects (the latter develops last). These reasons all make up the rationale presented by The World Health Organisation that weaning onto solids should begin “around 6 months”.

As a sidenote. Baby rice is not a suitable ‘first food’ and should be avoided at all costs. If your baby is approaching weaning age please read this article to find out why.

Will weaning early improve your baby’s sleep? It’s unlikely, but it may make it worse if you introduce solids before their body is ready to handle it, just as this research discovered.

 

3. Supplementing a breastfed baby with a bottle of formula will improve sleep

In theory this works. The contents of formula milk are much harder for a baby to digest than breastmilk, therefore one could presume that as the baby’s body will need more time to digest the milk, that the baby will remain ‘fuller’ for longer. In addition, the design of the bottle teat and the way the baby feeds is different to the mechanism that they use to feed from the breast. This means therefore that the baby may take more milk from a bottle than from the breast, thereby ‘filling them up’ more again.

This theory falls flat however when you consider that the baby is most likely not just waking from hunger. Babies predominantly wake at night for one reason: the need for human contact. This is the same whether they have had a breast or bottle feed before bed. Of course they wake because of hunger, but the need for human contact is as much of a real need for them as the need for milk.

This is one of the reasons why research has found that breastfeeding mothers actually get more sleep at night than those who formula feed. Part of the reason for this may be the intricate workings of breastfeeding. A nightime breastfeed will not only provide a baby with nutrition, it will also provide them with sleep hormones, including melatonin, which is not present in formula, and improves nocturnal sleep, as this research discusses.

 

4. Dreamfeeding is  a miracle sleep tool

Dreamfeeding seems like such an innocuous parenting practice. Championed by the late Tracy Hogg, before she died in 2004, in her infamous book ‘The Baby Whisperer’. This method is highly prevelant today.

I have three issues with it.

1. Hogg fell into that same old mistaken belief that babies wake almost solely for food at night. The theory behind dreamfeeding is simple: “feed ’em up so they sleep as long as possible”. Only babies don’t just wake from hunger.

2. Dreamfeeding has the potential to negatively impact a baby’s immature circadian rhythms. A baby’s body clock only really begins to emerge somewhere around their third month of life. This natural body clock is what helps a baby to be in sync with the light cycles of the day and night and is what helps them to eventually sleep in more consolidated blocks at night and less in the day. A young baby’s sleep cycle is approximately 45 minutes long. Interrupting these cycles and the emerging circadian rhythms by rousing a baby (just enough to feed) can confuse their body clocks that otherwise believe the baby should be sleeping, not feeding. The effects are a bit like jet lag for the baby. Their body thinks they should be doing one thing – outside influences say and do something else.

3. Creating a habit. Feeding a baby at 10pm who otherwise doesn’t need a feed at 10pm is setting yourself up to be giving a 10pm feed for a long time into the future, most likely well after the time your baby would have naturally dropped a feed around this time.

 

5. Your baby needs to attend groups to socialise

Let’s get one thing straight. You are all your baby needs to develop amazing social skills. Everything he or she needs to know about social interactionGPImage1 happens naturally in your everyday exchanges. A shared smile, an instinctive game of peekabo, cuddling, conversations, copying each other’s facial expressions and the like. Something that scientists term ‘reciprocity’ or ‘reciprocal socialisation’.

Babies are tremendously aware and social little beings, check out this website if you need any convincing. They absolutely don’t need to attend classes or groups to develop a skill that is already innate.

You on the other hand, might benefit immensely from these groups. Sharing your journey with other new parents, making new friends and providing support. If this is the case then go for it!

If the idea of going to a baby group or class fills you with terror rest assured in the knowledge that the benefit of these groups is almost entirely for you (if you enjoy them) and not your baby (however educational the class may sound).

 

6. Babies need to be taught independence

Independence. The word itself indicates that to become INdependent you must first have become dependent. The best way to make babies independent? Allow them to be as dependent on you as they need in their first few years of life. Then, when they are ready to begin to branch out away from you they will do so self assured, confident and happily. Any independence that is forced on a child is likely to backfire, resulting in a clingy, unconfident, shy child who needs you far more for far longer.

I’m not going to go into any more depth here, other than to highly recommend you read this article ‘The Growth of Independence in The Young Child‘ by John Bowlby.

 

7. Babies can be taught to self soothe

Babies are as capable of being taught to self soothe as they are capable of being taught to ride a bicycle.

Self soothing is not something you can teach, through any amount of sleep training or techniques. Through sleep training you can condition a baby not to cry out for attention and go to sleep without parental input fairly easily, however this behaviour is not indicative of a baby who is calm, soothed or settled.

Self soothing is a developmental stage, a skill that infants gain as they grow older. Just as they become more physically mobile, develop the ability to eat solids and develop the ability to talk. In essence you can’t teach something that their brains are not yet equipped for.

For a much more in depth discussing on the self soothing myth read my previous article ‘Self Settling: What Really Happens When you Teach a Baby to Self Settle’.

 

8. Tough love is necessary

Tough love is never necessary in my opinion. Compassion and understanding is always far more powerful than control, training and force. We could achieve so much more in life if we understood this.

Do you want your child to feel able to speak to you about their problems when they are in their teens? Do you want your child to feel loved by you unconditionally? If so you need to accept them for who they are, listen to their needs and nurture them as they need.

If more parents did this there would be no need for increasingly ‘tough’ behavioural control techniques such as time out, naughty steps, grounding, smacking and the like. ‘Tough love’ is the beginning of a slippery path into the land of ‘Fear of God’ parenting, it relies on your child fearing you and of you exerting control over them. At some point however they will rebel and you will lose control. Forget toughening your child up, nurture their compassion and empathy, keep channels of communication open and love them unconditionally. If you do these things you will have a great relationship with them in their tweens and teens and they will be more likely to do the things you ask of them for no reason other than they love and respect you. This will then hopefully perpetuate into any relationships they have in adulthood, be that friends, work mates, romantic partners and in time – their own children. The world doesn’t need more ‘tough’ people, it needs more compassion.

 

9. You have to visit your health visitor

I should start this with the caveat that some health visitors are great. Sadly however many aren’t.

If you live in the UK, know that there is no legal obligation to visit your health visitor, to get your baby weighed or otherwise. Health visitors are either registered nurses or midwives who take some extra training. They do not have to have worked in these roles for any specific length of time before training as a health visitor. For nurses in particular this means that they will have hardly any experience of the psychology of infants and postpartum families. forty five week’s extra training on top of general medical nursing training is not enough to equip them with enough knowledge of up to date information on mother-infant attachment, the science of sleep and up to date advances in the knowledge of infant feeding. The few who are great tend to take their CPD into their own hands, attending courses and researching in their own free time.

With this in mind then, it is little wonder that the advice given by some health visitors is based on nothing more than their own personal opinions. This seems to be incredibly prevalent when it comes to sleep advice (which is often outdated and not evidence based). If your health visitor recommends you to do something to, or with, your baby that feels uncomfortable, trust your instinct and do some research of your own or ask to see a different one.

 

10. Babies gagging on finger food means they are choking

Babies have a strong gag reflex. This reflex helps to keep them safe and prevents them from choking. For many parents however, unaware of the reflex, it can come as alarming shock. Many parents think that their baby is choking and can panic, often believing that their baby is not yet ready for finger foods.

The gag reflex is a contraction of the back of the throat triggered by an object touching the roof of the mouth or back of the tongue. This triggered reflex allows the baby to gag and cough up any food that may otherwise cause them to choke. I can’t highlight enough how normal this reflex it is. The gag reflex begins to lessen around seven months onwards.

A quick note on real choking; I highly recommend that ALL parents take a paediatric first aid course to learn how to deal with a real choking emergency. You may one day save your baby’s life. I took my training with The British Red Cross and thoroughly recommend it. As it happens I had to put what I learned to use one day when my daughter was genuinely choking. I believe my training saved her life.

Sarah

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32 Responses to Ten Common Baby Parenting Myths You Might Believe (and why you shouldn’t).

  1. Penny lazell says:

    Dear Sarah. A very good blog until you get to a very unhelpful and what could be a dangerous reference to not needing health visitors. I worked in the nhs as a health visitor for 15 years before becoming an independent health visitor. I was frustrated by the way many health visitors worked however they are still such an important point of reference form any people and without them many parents would be even more isolated especially those that are unable to afford the likes of you and me.

    • Hi Penny, I didn’t say people didn’t “need” health visitors, just that there is no obligation for them to see them if they don’t want to, especially if the health visitor’s advice doesn’t reasonate with their instincts. Too many parents are unsettled by the information given to them by health visitors and they don’t realise that they don’t have to accept their visits or go to baby clinic. Of course there are parents genuinely helped by health visitors, highlighting there is a need and some of them are great (usually the ones who take their learning and CPD into their own hands).

  2. NicolaLuna says:

    These are all so true and I learned them as I was going along. The health visitor one is so accurate. I used to leave the health visitors sessions in tears every time because they were horrible about my kids weight. They told me to feed him more more more. I increased his food and he started vomiting after every meal so I reduced it to how it was before. They didn’t care that he was a happy kid meeting all his milestones. They only cared about the number on the scales. I’m not even going to go into the awful breastfeeding advice they gave, I’ll just say that if I hadn’t been so determined I never would have succeeded, I just started ignoring them and following my instincts.

  3. Awfully Chipper says:

    I love everything you say here – but the title is very misleading and could actually lead to readers misinterpreting your entire article. The title tells me that these are “ten myths” (ie, not true) but each numbered subheading is actually a truth that you want to convince the reader of. Please consider changing the title if you can!

  4. Rachel says:

    Great article, but the titles for each point are very confusing. It reads as if the myth is that a four month old is unlikely to be teething. You’ve introduced these as your top ten myths when actually they’re the counter or truth as opposed to the myth

  5. Kerry Bone says:

    My baby does not wake in the night, so how do you explain her lack of ‘needing’ human contact’ Why is it that the huge majority of terribly-sleeping babies are AP? I don’t know of a single baby that grins as it is lowered into its cot for a nap or when it’s time for bed – except mine.

    I used the Gina Ford book Contented Little Baby and it is unbelievably powerful stuff. I am delighted with my baby’s progress.

    I would like to add that your distaste for HV’s is nothing short of dangerous when you are actively seeking to put women off using them. Why the hell would you do that? Because they don’t endorse your psuedo-scientific nonsense? Grow up.

    • Deby says:

      I think you’ve answered your own question there.
      ‘My baby does not wake in the night, so how do you explain her lack of ‘needing’ human contact’’
      ‘I used the Gina Ford book’.

    • Kate says:

      This isn’t nonsense, it is encouraging like minded parents to trust their instincts – which are constantly undermined by a whole array of information sources. If you used Gina Ford then I would suggest that this blog/newsletter etc are not for you and ask that you please be respectful towards others, as you are contributing to the undermining problem.

    • TK says:

      This is a wonderful article.

      I particularly like that you encourage parents to follow their instincts when given advice by ‘professionals’.

      I took my baby to the ED when he was 6 weeks old as I knew there was something wrong. The Dr did nothing and said my bub was just developing his immune system and a little virus was all it was.

      Thankfully a nurse did a urine test (which u had to get her to encourage the Dr to look at as he was totally disinterested). It showed my bub had a UTI. Dr was still totally unconcerned and told me to go home and give bub Panadol for fever.

      I felt uneasy so didn’t give my bub Panadol but let the fever do its job. The symptoms continued so a couple of days later I saw our regular GP who sent us immediately to the larger hospital an hour away (by private car but only because that was quicker than ambulance else she would have put us in the ambulance)

      We ended up 48 hours in hospital with bub on IV antibiotics and he had to have a lumbar puncture to make sure that he hasn’t developed meningitis. He also had to have an ultrasound as there was a 1 in 3 chance he had an issue with his urinary tract which needed surgery (thankfully we weren’t that 1 in 3).

      I found out later that any baby who gets a UTI at such a young age, particularly a boy should immediately have antibiotics and also an ultrasound. My baby was VERY sick by all the blood test results but was clinically more well than he should have been which I’m eternally grateful for.

      Mummy ALWAYS knows best and even first time mums should be encouraged to trust their gut. I’m glad I didn’t give my boy that paracetamol – he may have died as his symptoms would have been masked and the fever wouldn’t have been there to fight the infection.

      At a later date I also got bad advice from a HV about watering down my bub’s formula when he had diarrhoea. I did some research and found out this was outdated advice. I put him on lactose free instead for a while. When HV found out they thought I was a genius. Haha.

      Apologies for the longwinded comment.

    • TK says:

      The reason is because your baby has given up asking for contact at night as to have followed Gina’s advice in her awful, heartless book. Likely your little one is still wanting cuddles but has given up crying out as you have trained your little one that you won’t come to answer that cry. Good for your sleep, not so much great for bub’s cortisol levels. I understand you did what you thought best at hr time by following Gina’s book but please reconsider her methods in future – they are totally against all mothering instinct!

      Sarah is far from egotistical. I once asked her a question about something and she answered with some links to helpful information related to the topic I asked about but told me she did not know the precise answer to my question (it was a complex one that involved me making my own informed decision on certain aspects). It was very refreshing and very far from egotistical!

  6. I think this is a very well written article and will help a lot of moms who ‘think’ they are doing it wrong.I think every baby is different and you need to treat them in a manner that works for both your and your child

    As for people commenting on your distaste of health visitors – I didn’t feel that is what you were trying to say but rather that as a parent we have choices. I have two daughters and they were born in different cities just over two years apart. The difference in the advice and the manner in which I was treated as a mother was mind boggling. I did not feel that with either the health visitors were particularly helpful and if I was doing something that they disagreed with they would try and intimidate me and make me feel criminal. For those out there who have found a good one – please sing their praises to all you know for they deserve it – to the ones who haven’t – you now know you don’t have to continue to have that sort of negative influence in your life!

  7. Rachel Wood says:

    Thank you i found the advice very useful, helpful & inciteful. Would recommend to friends & family & other Mums & Mum’s to be. I had bad experiences & bad advice from more than one health visitor & wish i had researched for myself so i could have argued back or consoled myself after being left in tears, broken by their negativity. I did have one lovely midwife unfortunately i didn’t get to see just her & others were just as negative & soul destroying with their words. Hope these words help others.

  8. Becky says:

    As ever more brilliance from you! To the lady who is following Gina Ford – please consider another way. Your baby may ‘sleep through’… How wonderful for you! But for your baby? Who has maybe been encouraged not to ask for the cuddle she instinctively wanted at 3am? Is it best for her? I have had many hours of sleepless nights with my 16mo and they are exhausting but precious precious private moments of heaven – I wouldn’t swap them for an extra hours sleep if you paid me!
    Regarding the HV advice – mine were sadly hopeless. I was told my bf daughter MUST be on the breast for a MINIMUM of 20mins each side… Even though she never lost her baby weight and continued to gain on just 5 mins each side. It makes me sad there is not more awareness of gentle parenting amongst health professionals – it would lead to some far happier mummy’s and babies of there were. Clone yourself Sarah?!

  9. nananeenaw says:

    Thanks, very good!! 🙂 ………I’m a grandmother to teenagers now so it’s a bit late for me. I didn’t go to the clinic with my first as I was suffering from post natal depression, agoraphobia and social phobia, none of which I knew at the time, I just thought I was a bad mother. I’ve had reasonable health visitors, friendly and kind but not very good advice. They don’t always know how to help or don’t want you to do what feels natural which can undermine you. Modern society seems to see the rearing of babies as -a “scientific” checklist, whereas we’ve actually been successfully having babies and bringing up children for a very, very long time in close knit family groups…..even if there were some old wives tales……because it is the most natural thing a woman can do and most of it comes as second nature, unless we are told by often very well meaning professionals, that “this is how we do it now”. Human contact is essential, baby primates are almost continually joined to their mothers for an extended period but unfortunately life in modern times doesn’t fit in very well with motherhood 😦

  10. Joy says:

    A brilliant article.

    I had rubbish advice from my HVs who didn’t seem very well read at all. I got much more help and guidance from doing my own research.

    As for the Gina follower, yes, her methods work. So does torture. Just because something works, it doesn’t make it good.

  11. Kate C says:

    I love this article! Except for the very first point – all 4 of my kids were teething at 3-4 months, the first 2 both had teeth before 4 months. I remember being told off by my child health nurse for thinking my first was teething, to my amusement her first tooth popped through a couple weeks later.

  12. Lisa says:

    None of the points in #2 are true at 6 months, either. Or even at 8 months or more. Unless you’re drastically over feeding (food before 1 is just for fun) babies don’t eat enough food to replace anywhere near the calories and nutrients of milk. It fills them up quicker and takes longer to digest, but solids sure won’t help a baby gain faster or be better nourished than a similar volume of milk would.

  13. Ana says:

    My baby girl is 3 months old and has pretty much slept through the night since day 1, this was with no input from me, it’s something she has just naturally done, I’ve never done anything other than let her know her mummy is always there!! She is a very loved and cuddled little girl! But this article would make it sound like she is lacking human contact at night?!
    If she needed it I would give it happily!! Whenever she needs her mummy I will be there! She just sleeps through the night so is she lacking human contact then? I don’t understand that part of the article!

    • Lucy says:

      I feel the same about this point in the article Ana. My daughter is now 3 years old but has pretty much slept through the night from 7 and a half weeks old. Again I have never not done anything when she did cry in the early days or when she does cry now or at any other time and did pick her up to cuddle her. But I believe my daughter did learn to self sooth early as it was the minute she found her thumb and learnt to keep it in her mouth that she started sleeping through the night. But you know what, I did read the baby whisperer by Tracy Hogg, and although I didn’t agree with all her advice, one thing she did say, that is also highlighted in points in this article, is babies cry for a variety of reasons and you need to trust your instinct in what your baby is crying or learn why they are crying to fulfill that need. I personally loathe the Gina Ford book for this reason. The one thing I did do with my daughter though was not continue to breast feed her when I knew she was full and didn’t need food. Now some may think that harse, but when she was sucking on my breast for so long and falling asleep on my breast, then when I took her off she just cried again, for me to put her back on my breast again and for the cycle to be repeated time and time again until she vomits, you soon learn that she is sucking to soothe herself. So instead I chose to cuddle her and gently pat her back when I instinctively knew she was full, and this coupled with the fact she was obviously always trying to get her thumb in her mouth from and early she eventually found her thumb and bingo that was it she did it for herself, with no lack of love or comfort from me. So from then on when she fed and fell asleep on my breast and I took her off, if she did stur, she just plopped her thumb in her mouth all by herself. Just to point out also that if she did not settle by me comforting her and checking there was no other reason her crying e.g. Wind, dirty nappy, I would always breast feed her again if that was what she appeared to be looking for, but you know what more often than not she was not still hungry just tired or overwhelmed with something going on in the environment. It’s not that I’m saying don’t breast feed your babies to comfort them, I just personally felt there were better ways to comfort my baby, and most importantly that was knowing what she needed which wasn’t food but comfort. But hey now I probably will have an expensive orthodontics bill, but I have a contended girl who loves cuddle and still sucks her thumb. Also just like to say I’m a Nurse and although I appreciate the point about not all HV being well read and knowledgable enough on the things they are preaching to mothers (as the same happens in the nursing and medical profession, in that you’ll sometimes get conflicting advice). I do think you have to be very mindful about making statements like this online as not all mothers have a good natural mothering instinct, and discouraging visits to HV to these people could be detrimental to their child’s well being, if they think ‘oh well I don’t need to seek the support of a health care professional’. The likes of many child neglect cases spring to mind.

    • Sally says:

      No, Ana. If your baby wants human contact then she will ask for it. Most / lots of babies require human contact at night.
      If it’s not something you are forcing her to do then enjoy it, because chances are, it won’t last. 🙂 follow your babies cues and enjoy her. Xx

  14. Christina says:

    I think you’re wrong about teething. This is a false article. Both of my children had excessive drooling at 4 months and lo and behold by 4.5 months they had their first teeth. Don’t say its a myth. Oh and by the way, neither of my children had diarrhea or fevers, which you say is a true symptom of teething. Horrible article!

  15. Lisa says:

    All children are different. So, whilst the idea of de-bunking myths is attractive, whilst de-bunking these 10 myths you are just creating another 10 scenario’s that fit ‘your’ world view of a childs world view, which is something none of us can really know. I find these articles, whilst well intentioned, a little egotistical and dangerous. A child is unique and they all have their different needs and responses, end of. As a parent, one just needs to do what you feel is the best thing by your individual child and ignore these articles, they just give an anxious person, one likely to be seeking advice from the internet, more to be concerned about. I read books and articles galore when my child was young, all they did was serve to confuse and confound, in the end I dumped the well meaning advice, advocating one view over another, and followed my instinct as best I could. All is well in the end.

  16. yv says:

    Nice article but just a question re the ‘human contact’ part. I know many mums whose babies are natural sleepers and sleep through the night without ever being trained or cried. Also my son would wake heaps in his cot or when sleeping in my bed but would sleep long hours in his swing without waking to seek contact. Just interested in your comments about this. Thanks

  17. Kiwinatz says:

    Not quite sure why I read this link as have no issues with my 2 and 4 year old boys, however it just frustrates me reading that one person is attempting to state facts with babies… They are all so different and no matter how much reading/Internet/friends advice you partake in, it’s always going to be different. Both my lads slept from 7 and 8 weeks old 12 hours a night (still get 11 hours from them now) and they were on solids at 16 weeks (eat wide ranges of everything) none of these should be listed as myths or truth…. Advice is the best descriptive…..

  18. NicolaJayne74 says:

    Such a brilliant post. Thank you.

  19. Amy Mitchell says:

    A great read. Interesting point of view about Health Visitors and truly hope people don’t think this of all. I am as HV and converted my training due to the service (or lack of) I received with my own. As professionals we should be evidence based, it is a requirement to renew our registration and I hope the new guidelines from the NMC tightens up on those who are not working within the appropriate scope of practice. We don’t tell parents often enough that they are the expert with their child, we are there to support and enable. Your resources are great Sarah, and very easy to point my families to, I haven’t had anyone come back yet that hasn’t found them useful. In particular mums who have granny telling them the gospel about sleep…..say no more 🙂

    • Not all, there are some great ones, you sound like you are one. I just find it so sad that they are usually the ones super dedicated to researching in their free time and paying for (and sourcing) their own CPD. It shouldn’t be like that!

  20. Roar Mama says:

    So true – people have been telling me my baby is teething for the past 3 months (he’s 6 months) and still no sign of teeth. I just nod, smile and ignore. I’m sure when he’s teething I’ll know 🙂

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