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Boys don’t need any special parenting (neither do girls). What they DO need is parents to raise them compassionately, respectfully and free of gender stereotypes! . . . #gentleparenting #gentlediscipline #positiveparenting #positivediscipline #consciousparenting #consciousdiscipline #attachmentparenting #naturalparenting #mindfulparenting #peacefulparenting #genderneutral #raisingboys #raisinggirls #boymom #boymum #boymama #boymumma #mothertoboys #mumtoboysWhat does it mean when we talk about kids respecting us? There’s so much talk around “kids need to learn respect”, but that just isn’t true! You don’t learn respect. You don’t teach respect. Respect is something that we, as parents - and caregivers, earn. Respect develops naturally when kids are inspired by adults. When adults act with empathy and compassion. . . If you think of the people that you respect in your life, they are those who inspire, connect, achieve and act with kindness, humility and good humour. . Respect is absolutely, categorically never achieved through shaming, punishment, exclusion or guilt. The only thing that develops here is disconnect and fear. . If you want your kids to respect you more, the solution is very simple.....you have to start by respecting them first. . . . #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #mindfulparenting #positiveparenting #peacefulparenting #attachmentparenting #gentlediscipline #gentledisciplinebook #positivediscipline #kidstoday #respectnotfear #sarahockwellsmithIf parents were truly educated about the normal sleep behaviours of babies and children and the illusion of the perfect 'contented little baby' sleeping 12 hours at night by as many weeks was shattered and replaced with realistic, evidence based information then everything would change. . Do you agree? . . . #gentlesleep #gentlesleeptraining #gentlesleepbook #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #peacefulparenting #attachmentparenting #cosleeping #bedsharing #mindfulparenting #sleeplessnights #nightshift #newbornsleep #babysleep #sleepregression #tiredmom #tiredmommy #tiredmommy #tiredmama #nightfeeds #sarahockwellsmithOh my goodness; this is SO true! 😂😂😉 . What’s the worst that’s happened to you? . . Mine are: 🐱head stuck in cat flap 🍚 entire packet of rice tipped on floor and mixed with whole bottle of vinegar 🚽3 toilet rolls unravelled in toilet 🐟fish (live) dropped down back of big heavy chest of drawers 💩poo tiles painted on roof of a wooden dolls house 🚜poo tractor tracks all over wall and........☀️entire bottle of suncream emptied over child and rug. . . . #parentingproblems #toddlerlife #momlife #mumlife #tiredmom #tiredmummy #toddlerfun #toddlercalm #toddlermum #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #peacefulparenting #sarahockwellsmith #parentingfunny #parentingmemesTop Posts & Pages
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Category Archives: Preschoolers
When and How Should You Handle Pocket Money?
I believe pocket money is important to allow them the freedom and control to be able to buy what they want, rather than have to ask you for everything. This control can have a very positive ‘knock on’ effect on the rest of their behaviour (that is often totally unrelated to money and purchases). Pocket money also teaches children economics from a very early age, so important considering finance management is not a part of core schooling curriculum (why?!). It can teach children about saving and donating, about foreign currency exchange and the value of buying good quality products. Continue reading
Posted in Preschoolers, Teens, Tweens
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Why You Should NEVER Praise or Reward A Child for Eating!
Praising a child for eating can be incredibly counter-productive. While the child may initially try to eat the food on offer, in exchange for lots of praise from their parents, the effect is unlikely to be long-lasting. The most worrying outcome of praise however is not the temporary effect it has, but how it encourages children to override their innate satiety cues in favour of pleasing their parent. Research has shown that children who are regularly praised for eating are statistically more likely to grow to be overweight in later life. Continue reading
Posted in Preschoolers, Toddlers, Tweens
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The Secret Way to Achieve a Calmer and Easier Toddler Bedtime
Bedtime resistance is common in the toddler and preschooler years and what was once an easy bedtime can often stretch out to hours. Similarly night waking may resurface (or not improve as expected). There are many reasons for disturbed bedtimes and waking, however the bedtime routine and what happens immediately before it is key in my opinion. Continue reading
Posted in Preschoolers, Toddlers
Tagged best toddler bedtime, child sleep expert, gentle sleep training, gentle sleep training toddler, how to get 2 year old to sleep, how to get 3 year old to sleep, how to get 4 year old to sleep, how to get toddler to sleep, sleep training toddler, Toddler Sleep Expert, toddler won't go to bed, toddler won't sleep, what time should 2 year old go to bed, what time should 3 year old go to bed, what time should toddler go to bed
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Why Your Child Needs Boundaries – and How to Set & Enforce Them
Boundaries play a crucial role in Gentle Parenting, in fact, so much so they really do form one of its cornerstones. I think the difficulty in understanding, comes from those who don’t really ‘get’ this style of parenting and also from those who practice it, but are a bit too scared to set and particularly enforce boundaries. Continue reading
Choosing Childcare: How to Choose a Setting In-Line With Your Parenting Beliefs
Preparing your list of questions in advance is vital. Write them down and take them with you to the meeting. If you run out of time to ask them all, ask the provider if you can send the rest over to them via email. Don’t feel embarrassed if your list is long, you are entrusting your most precious ‘possession’ in this person’s care! Continue reading
Posted in Babies, Preschoolers, Toddlers
Tagged choosing childcare, gentle parenting childminder, gentle parenting daycare, gentle parenting nanny, gentle parenting nursery, questions to ask childcare provider, questions to ask childminder, questions to ask nursery, what to ask a childminder, what to ask a nursery, what to ask daycare
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The Three Biggest Mistakes Parents Make When Disciplining Children
It doesn’t matter if you’re an authoritarian parent, hot on punishment and reward, or a gentle parent, focused on connection and empathy. Your kid is going to misbehave. Because that’s what they do….. Continue reading
Five Steps to Effective Discipline
Being mindful of neurological development is critical when you discipline. Most mainstream discipline methods – time out, naughty steps, exclusion, shaming and loss of privileges – expect cognitive abilities from children that they just don’t have Continue reading
Why Common Discipline Methods Don’t Work (and What to do Instead)
most common discipline methods focus on encouraging children to do and be better, so that they are motivated by rewards if they behave ‘well’ and punishments if they misbehave. This would seem sensible, but it makes one huge mistake. Continue reading
