Do Fathers need to Bottlefeed to Bond with their Babies?

“I want the baby to take a bottle so his dad can feed him and start to bond.” This is SUCH a strongly perpetuated myth, so many mothers express or give a bottle of formula so that their partners “can feed the baby and bond a bit”, but really, it is totally unecessary, there areContinue reading “Do Fathers need to Bottlefeed to Bond with their Babies?”

Parenting Woes – Whose Problem Is It Really?

This post has been whirling around my head for more than a year now and I have debated whether it should stay there many a time, why? Because I know this post is going to be contentious, I can only anticipate the comments it will get and the possibility that I might offend many parentsContinue reading “Parenting Woes – Whose Problem Is It Really?”

Why Gentle Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting

It’s a common misconception, those who parent their babies and children with respect and compassion are deemed “permissive parents”. These gentle permissive parents are seen as always letting their offspring get their own way, thus creating future selfish ‘me, me’ and ‘I want it all – NOW’ adults. Many describe gentle parents as being “too childContinue reading “Why Gentle Parenting is NOT Permissive Parenting”

What Should you do When Children Lie?

Sometimes I am the parent I want to be and sometimes my parenting elicits the response I am hoping for. Before you think I am perfect (or indeed think I think I am perfect which is perhaps even worse!) I’d like to point out here I have many, many failings as a mother and frequentlyContinue reading “What Should you do When Children Lie?”

Big Babies – Birthing a Macrosomic Infant – Part 2.

This is part 2 of a two part blog on ‘big babies’ please CLICK HERE for part 1. So What are Your Birth Options with a Big Baby? Having birthed four big babies myself and through my involvement in the birthing scene ever since, I have come to conclude that if you are carrying a suspectedContinue reading “Big Babies – Birthing a Macrosomic Infant – Part 2.”

Big Babies – The Curse of (mis) Diagnosing a Macrosomic Infant Part.1

Thousands of women are diagnosed with suspected big babies (or ‘macrosomia’ to use the medical terminology) every year, but this one simple label can have a profound effect on their birth. Obstetric consultants often take the results of growth scans as gospel, scheduling elective C-Sections or inductions as a result of them, but how accurateContinue reading “Big Babies – The Curse of (mis) Diagnosing a Macrosomic Infant Part.1”

Why it’s Good to Stop Saying ‘No’ To Your Toddler

I have just bought a new camera and whilst looking through an old SD card I found this shot of my daughter, taken when I think she was about 14 months old. She had emptied out an entire shelf of my kitchen cupboard, carried it all, bit by bit, into the hallway and then sheContinue reading “Why it’s Good to Stop Saying ‘No’ To Your Toddler”

What Rod? Our Experience of BedSharing to Age 4.

When my firstborn, arrived in 2002 Gina Ford frenzy was in full force. You weren’t a good mother if your baby didn’t sleep through by 12 wks and didnt have a routine you could set your watch by and you especially weren’t a good mum if your baby didn’t self settle to sleep in hisContinue reading “What Rod? Our Experience of BedSharing to Age 4.”

Motherless Mothers – Mothering Without a Mother Figure

I am a motherless mother. My mother died from breast cancer when  I was 21 and she 52 , 5 years before my firstborn child arrived. My journey as a mother has been bittersweet, I have loved finding a new dimension to myself,  I have loved viewing life with new eyes but I realise nowContinue reading “Motherless Mothers – Mothering Without a Mother Figure”

Why do Mothers Judge Each Other?

Bear with me, this is going to be a bit of a ramble,  I’m not quite sure what I want to say – or how to say it and I certainly don’t have any stats or science to back me up here, but this has been bothering me an awful lot lately. Why do mothersContinue reading “Why do Mothers Judge Each Other?”